There are many good things in our lives
Special relationships and special abilities. A gift for acting on stage and clarity about the use of science. Achievements in academics and opportunities to lead.
But our good things should never replace ultimate things.
For the Christian, the ultimate identity markers are knowing how & why you belong to Christ--knowing he has the final say about who you are, how you are loved, and the reason you are here.
This includes loving Him first and ordering your life so that your true identity doesn’t come from good things but the Good God.
Think for a moment about the ultimate things in your life that give you purpose and meaning. The things that, when pressed, make you feel like you matter, like you belong, and that you are worth being here. When everything gets thrown into a panic, and life is difficult or strained, do those ultimate identity markers have enough structure to support you?
In Philippians 4:6-7 it says,
If God has become the ultimate in your life; if you have found your identity in him then I can promise you this:
You will be guarded by his peace.
And that is an ultimate reality that supports where other structures fail.